Anon request: Would you compile a post of stevie’s relationship advice and particular quotes about love you find beautiful or insightful?
“Love was everywhere, you just had to fall…"
• "He must have a good job. He must be happy and satisfied with his own life. You are there to enhance his life, not take away from it, and he is there to enhance your life, not fuck it up."
• “My generation fought very hard for feminism, and we fought very hard to not be labeled as you had to have a husband or you had to be in a relationship, or you were somehow not a cool chick,” she says. “And now I’m seeing that start to come around again, where people say to you, ‘Well, what do you mean you don’t have a boyfriend? You don’t want to have one? You don’t want to be married?’ And you’re like, ‘Well, no, I don’t, actually. I’m fine.’ And they find a lot of reasons why you’re not fine. But it just seems to be coming back. Being able to take care of myself is something that my mom really instilled in me,” she says. “I can remember her always saying, ‘If nothing else, I will teach you to be independent.’ ”
• “Maybe the people you can live best with aren’t the great love of your life; the men you love deeply, the calmer, more loving, more solid people but who you weren’t super passionately crazy in love with. The ones to marry aren’t the ones as crazy as you are.”
• ”You know, since I was 18, I’ve always been going out with someone. It’s the first time I’ve ever been totally free (1976). I thought I was going to enjoy it… the whole thing is, now that we’re so successful in America, I wonder if people really like me for me or just because. Because I’m just pretty normal. Nobody ever recognizes me on the street, I just look like a chick. It’s real hard for me to think that when people do meet me under the image of Fleetwood Mac, especially the guys – is it just an ego trip, do you really like me?“
• "Don’t break up people’s marriages. It never works … It backfires everytime and it’s bad karma. Blame and judgment never work either, forgiveness always works."
• "For me, this was the final statement of how I really felt about real, unconditional love. It’s like, as a woman, you know, if you give out the vibe, then people will… they’ll ask you out or they’ll flirt with you or they’ll try to get close to you or something. But boy, when you are in love with somebody, and you’re really in love with them, nobody comes near you. Because you just don’t flaunt anything. You don’t offer out, you know, it’s like you’re very prim and you’re very nice and you’re very friendly, and you know, you just don’t hug everybody and you don’t let everybody kiss you, and you know, you don’t like to really basically be mauled. And so, in ‘The Nightmare’, it really says, you know – I stood with you against the storm and I tried once again. And the fact is, no… it didn’t work. But the fact is, I wouldn’t trade a second of it because I’ll never again settle for anything that is any less than that feeling."
• "If you want to find somebody and you want to be married and you want to have children, don’t make it a rock star.”
• “You see I was trained by the best to be as independent as you could possibly be. Now I do believe in love and I am the biggest romantic, I mean if Kathy and Heathcliff walked by, I’d jump out the window… absolutely not a chance, Sir Lawrence Olivier here I come, for sure. So I think I probably write down the conflict of "Oh yes I do want to be in love, and yes I do want to be a loving loving person and yes I do want to be the mother of many children but at the same time there’s a part of me that says, but I’m also Lillian Hellman and I want to write the great novel of all time and I want to go on the beach with my silent typewriter and I don’t want anybody to bother me, because I want to enhance this planet. I came here for a reason. I didn’t come here to be a mother. I didn’t come here to be a nun and I did not come here to be a cleaning lady. I came here to be a poet."
• “When we were really young, it was a lot easier. Because we were crazy. I’m not crazy now. We moved fast and furiously in those days, and I had lots of boyfriends and lots of amazing relationships and lots and lots of fun. I had enough fun and enough relationships to last me for the rest of my life, really. If that special man walked into my life, I’m the first one to say I would probably pack my bags and go with him. But it’s a very elusive thing.”
• “I don’t know – why do you love somebody? Why do you love them so much that when they walk in the room your heart jumps out of your chest? I don’t know. But I fell in love with Joe at first sight from across the room, in the bar at the Mansions Hotel in Dallas. I looked at him and I walked across the room and I sat on the bar stool next to him, and two seconds later I crawled into his lap, and that was it.”
• "The beginning of our relationship was the best time of our lives. Still, in every song I write there’s a line or two about Lindsey. He is my great musical love. He is like Johnny Cash to my June Carter. You can get to a state of mind where you can be happy, but it will always be difficult. You can find a good thing and you can be sad that you can’t be together."
• “I will always love Joe. It will probably be hard for me to find somebody else that ever ever made me feel like Joe did. [After the breakup] At that point I just thought it was over, I thought that I would just be an old maid and just live with a bunch of dogs and cats in the mountains somewhere and that would be it because there just wouldn’t be anything else for me.”
• “If you offered me a passionate love affair and you offered me a high-priestess role in a fabulous castle above a cliff where I can just, like, live a very spiritual kind of religious-library-communing-with-the-stars, learning of existence, I’m going to go for the high priestess.”
• “I was so taken with this movie because what happened to Bella absolutely happened to me. When Edward leaves her and just leaves her, she is out there in the forest and she just kinda drops to her knees and that’s it, she’s just gonna lay there and die. I have been in that position where I thought my life was over, and somebody did just leave me. I just started to slowly cry from the deepest part of my heart. I started thinking about the words to “Lady From The Mountains”, I felt this was Bella’s story and also mine and that point I became forever entranched in the Twilight story. I hope people when they hear it, I hope they feel the hopeless desperation that she felt and that I felt when somebody calls you up and they say the love of my life has walked away from me. Maybe this song will help to know that it’s happened to other people. That same thing happened to Stevie Nicks and she’s still alive.”
• "A duo is a different breed of cat. Dave Stewart and Annie Lennox. Stevie Nicks and Lindsey Buckingham. Only we four really understand this song. Fall in love with a person for who they are. Then fall in love with them again ~ for what they do. Rare…"
• "When you’re not looking is when people show up. So if it happens, great, and if it doesn’t, that’s OK; I’m a creative person, and I fill my world with creativity."
• "You know, I think I told you this, but as I travel around the country [touring], I do get to sit down in between [shows] with my friends and hold their hands and laugh about the past, and my one friend that I wrote my first song about—the ‘I’ve Loved and I’ve Lost’ song I told you about—his name is Steve. I always dedicate the song to him because I was so crazy about him when I was 15 and a half; my parents gave me this guitar and I wrote this little song about him. And I can honestly say that I was as in love with him as I have ever been in love with anybody."
• “Men are going to go out on the road and they’re going to find other women. So if you really want to save yourself a whole lot of heartache, do not fall in love with somebody in a band. Just don’t.
"Probably what I’m saying "One more chip in an already broken heart, that’s when I needed you” is probably saying that some of the love that I probably search for always was what I needed a long time ago, probably when Lindsey and I were in love. That’s when I need to know it was all right. That’s when nobody told me. And so that’s I think what the “one more chip in an already”… cause that came out very quickly…“
• "I can be sitting in a parking lot waiting for my assistant to come to the car and I see a couple walk by and I can see their fingers gently touch and see him open the door for her and look at her and her look at him and for a moment they just stand still in time… and then I can go home and write a song about them. Or I can see a movie—say, it’s a movie with Michael Fassbender called The Light Between Oceans—and I can’t get this movie out of my head. The tragedy of this movie is so intense and so beautiful you can hardly stand it and you go home and think about it for days afterwards. It’s everything I can do to not just say “Stop everything I have to go and write a song about this movie because I need to write a song about this fictional relationship that I can’t stop thinking about.”
• "I want to add, having said all that, I would never believe that it is not possible that coming right around the corner is the man of my dreams, at 68 years old. It’s possible, and I accept the possibility of that completely.
Because after everything we’ve talked about, if we can honestly say that love never dies, if my heart can still flutter when I see my boyfriend from when I was 15 and a half, I cannot honestly say that there is no chance for real love in my life somewhere in the next 15 or 20 years. Because I believe that there’s always that possibility. I never want people to think that I’m some cold woman who thinks that love may have existed all those years ago when I was younger, but doesn’t exist in my dreams now, because it does exist in my dreams now. But I’m also really good not having it because I’m not lonely, I’m not bored. I have so much to do that I can hardly get three hours of sleep."
• "Because of what we do, whether you have a relationship or don’t have a relationship, you balance it. I have to say that there have a been a few men in my life that have liked what I do, and have liked my friends, and have liked the fact that I like to stay up late and sit at the piano and light the candles, and were happy to lay on the couch with a book while I was doing that. They were few, but they were there, they did exist. And sometimes, I thought that the great loves of your life are the ones that just make you crazy, and say they’re coming to your house and don’t show up, and the phone doesn’t ring, and you just want to kill yourself. And then there are the ones who actually just dig what you do and who you are, and you put them in the second category of great loves. And then the nutcases of your life are the ones that were in the first category of your great loves, but they’re the ones you could never have lived with!”